Someone

A gorgeous girlfriend of mine recently became single. (look out boys!) It was a very long, very tumultuous relationship. Needless to say she is very comforted to be done with it. We got to talking about the advantages and disadvantages of dating. She expressed that she had a few guys lined up and was enjoying the attention and having fun with being single. It strokes the ego and it makes you feel wanted. There have been moments when none of those vying for her affections were interesting. Maybe they were players, liars, or just plain boring. What she said next was no shock to me, it was so easy to relate. While there was attention and she was dating and seeing what her options are - she really just wanted ONE guy that she could see. One guy that would take her out, one guy that she could talk and flirt with, one guy she could enjoy those torrid and sexy seductive moments. Sure it's fun to date - but it can also be exhausting and draining. How many do you have to date to find someone that you can actually enjoy some companionship? She was adamant about not wanting a boyfriend, no committment and no pressure, just that one guy she could call a friend and enjoy time spent. If it developed into something over time - great. If it didn't at least she wouldn't fall apart. Why is it so hard to to try to impress a small degree of exclusivity on the one you're seeing? Yeah - some say that would make them your boyfriend/girlfriend...whatever! I understand what she is talking about. Allow me to try to explain. This would be someone that's into you, like you are into them. Someone willing to take it slow. Someone willing to spend time with you but also willing to give you your space. Someone honest. It's so confusing. How can you feel like you want to be attached one moment and the next you don't? And not because you're keeping your options open...but because you still wanted time to focus on yourself, your family and friends. Understandably if things are meant to be eventually your worlds begin to co-mingle. And no, we are not laying the expectation on that one person that they are the ONE. We aren't ready for that either. We're just good people trying to find someone good to enjoy time with for a while.