We're all human and more often than not - apt to be tempted to look. So when someone we fancy walks by, our eyes can't help but follow. I say this generally speaking as both genders are guilty, no matter what your sexual orientation. And so long as the following eyes don't disrespect your companion or follow too often - this is quite normal. But just what is considered normal? Each of us is built with our own moral compass and there can be serious varying degree of opinions.
A funny response that had me reeling to the question of why look at another (woman/man), while with your partner/companion/date? It made more sense than anything else I've read, between to the two sexes I believe it holds the truest and most honest response. (thereby forcing immediate introspection) Their response or deduction was that not only is the person appreciating beauty but looking for some kind of recognition from that sex to basically reconfirm the ability to attract someone. Perhaps, a glance or look in their immediate direction as a means to thank them for noticing and with a mere look back granting their wish. A stroke of the ego. Putting it definitively into perspective.
Some responses were well thought out, others obvious jealousy or double standards. Do you think women or men have the ability to be open-minded, especially in a relationship to allow their partner to engage in affairs? Same goes for same sex partners. Is it easier to allow it than be blind-sided by it? It's a highly unlikely attitude from either sex. The idea that a woman is going to go for the idea of her man cheating and turn a blind eye to sate his appetite? Much like the idea that a man might grow comfortable knowing his woman is getting her fill somewhere else other than him? Some people have the ability to open their mind and enjoy including someone else in the bedroom with their partners. Truth is, it's easier to discuss and more difficult to execute. How far is too far in a relationship?
What constitutes too much looking? When does looking become more of an endless search? If men were bombarded with as many sexual, naked, half-naked better looking images of men at the rate that women are blitzed by it - men would feel increasingly insecure. As women you are not allowed to show that kind of insecurity. Men don't appreciate it and in fact they think you are attacking them, because they can't relate to what you're feeling. If your man has a taste for porn (big asses and boobs) or his head is constantly spinning whenever a girl fitting his profile walks by, you can't help but feel defeated. On the opposite end of the spectrum - if a girl had a savoring for porn (let's say strictly to see very large penises) and watched every guy's package walking by - eventually this is going to affect the guy and he's going to feel like he isn't measuring up or like she's looking for something else.
The consensus seems to be that women feel more jaded and when given the opportunity to leer - will do so just to be spiteful. Women will scan a room and pick out every female they believe will attract the eyes of their partner. This is exhausting, there are too many. Forget it ladies!! You're better off leaving it alone. If he keeps up with his behavior and you've grown tired of addressing it, then turn the tables on him. Why drown yourself in sorrow or tears? Perk up, smile, dig in those sexy heels. Who cares who he looks at, chances are he'll be twenty times more likely to notice some guy checking you out. Or maybe just maybe stop worrying about it and enjoy yourself and have some fun.
Guys - word of advice: Women are far more forgiving in their pursuit of partners ; how a man looks, smells, sweats, tastes and many more unmentionables are often overlooked. Men are about the aesthetics, some don't mind completely vacuous women, because they're hot and easy on the eyes. Caution - a girl who's pretty and/or hot, smart and funny > don't be stupid enough to lose her just because you can't learn some restraint and/or respect. It will be a lot easier for her to get a date, trust me.
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